Question for everyone. I've told my bf about my anxiety and even that I have OCD but I have not told the specifics of my OCD in any great length. My closest friends and family members don't know the specifics because I'm too embarrassed to even say the craziness of it out loud. Plus my crazy thoughts can change from moment to moment. Do you think this is an important thing that your significant other should know all the details of?? Does your partner know all the specifics? How have you handled this?

EVERYONE knows about my problems. I used to keep them all to myself and I just couldn't do it anymore so know I am very very open about it. And it was such a relief when I opened up about it all. Unfortunately my problems are part of me so people have to accept me as a whole.

One thing that we all have to remember is that we live with this everyday and we ourselves don't fully understand it so how can we expect someone that has never experienced it to understand? They can try but they will never truly get it.

Take it all day by day --- You CAN beat this!

I can relate to you totally. No...the details I keep hidden. My husband knows my thoughts are wierd and recurrent. Like yours, they can change from one off the wall thought to another. I don't get thoughts of violence...I used to...see my post earlier titled "can anyone relate"....seems no one can as I have gotten no replies. that's ok though. One things I can say though is that telling someone what my specific crazy thought may be at the time does lessen the anxiety...but typically, like you...I am too embarassed to even describe them. I think that's where the Therapist comes in. You know? Anyway, very happy to read your post...feels better to know I am not alone.
Prayers,
Kelly

I'm glad I made you feel better. Honestly to even say half of it out loud sounds absurd even to me...it sounds so utterly ridiculous that I would get so upset over one thought or some new thought. My bf will never understand. Now I just say that I"m "stressed" or feeling "anxious". I honestly believe no one will ever understand unless they've to some degree gone through it.

I agree. NO ONE can better understand unless they have gone through it. I know what you mean, I feel like an idiot when I even think about saying my thoughts outloud. Its embarassing! Its like I know they are so stupid and rediculous...so why won't they just go away!? It is very very frustrating! It's like why do they even pop into my mind like they do? Like you...I usually say I am feeling Panicky...or "oh..I am just having stupid thoughts."

Yeah diva they can NEVER understand unless they go through it. I am pretty open about it to my bf bc Ive been with him for seven years... but he just doesnt get it. He will tell me "Just dont think about it".... or "Toughen up".... or "Stop Worrying so much".. lol. Spoken like someone who truely doesnt understand!! It used to really bother me but we cant expect them to understand bc they are lucky enough to have never experienced it. They cant relate at all. They think its like being "stressed out" but have no idea that it consumes your whole body and mind.

What makes it worse is that mine act like the attacks annoy him.. so when he sees me getting all fidgety and nervous on a train or out to eat... hell say oh boy or be sarcastic.. which yep...makes it 10x worse. He thinks its all in my head. Everybody has a "safe" person who they feel safe in front of with the symptoms. Mine is my mom. As long as u have some one in your life that your open to about it.. its ok. It doesnt HAVE to be ur bf.. even though that would be nice.