Hi All, I'm a young 64-year-old with a much younger (50-year-old) husband who's just great and trying real hard to be supportive of me during this time. His mother moved in with us in July, and I've been feeling pretty crazy ever since. She's not an easy person to be around, and I feel like my home is not my own any more. We have lots of turmoil at home now, and the stress is getting to both of us. Even though he's a great guy, my husband and I have been arguing more than we ever have - he's having as much trouble with her living here as I am.

I've been attempting the program since late October, but know that I need to give it more time. So far the relaxation CD helps when I use it - I just haven't been making the time to use it often enough.

I guess I've always had a tendency to over react and think the worst. I'm on anti-anxiety meds now that help with the pain - the anxiety manifests itself as acute pain in my shoulder. I'm also seeing a counselor and working on being more assertive, especially with my mother-in-law, who's very over-bearing and sometimes mean. I'm trying not to take it personally when she yells and slams doors and throws things, because the next thing you know she'll be sweet and gracious. I've never known anyone so extremely passive-aggressive.

Before I started the anti-anxiety meds and seeing the counselor, I really thought I was going crazy. My blood pressure was sky high and my pulse was 93 - which is extremely high for me since I'm a personal trainer and work out a lot ... well, I used to work out a lot. After a month into this living situation, I felt like I had to quit the gym ... I just couldn't handle anything beyond my changed home life. The responsibility of training clients just seemed too much. I'm amazed at the people who can keep on working when they feel so out of control.

I think the program will help. I just need to spend more time with it ... and now the holidays are coming and family obligations are increasing. How are the rest of you handling this time of year when you feel so shaky?

I've read a few of the posts. I'll try to respond to some of them and be more active in the community, but it will probably be after Thanksgiving when I have more time. Until then, be well everyone and keep working on you - we all deserve to feel better.

Rock Flower

Welcome Rock Flower,

I will write a proper reply tomorrow as it's past my time to be on the pc, I have a routine I have to stick with or I don't sleep.

Good Luck for now with the situation you are in.
Yikes!!!