I'm having soooo much trouble getting out of bed in the morning. I feel so safe in my bed and at home. Nothing can hurt me there...except for my negative thoughts of course.
I've missed a lot of my classes this semester. I had to drop one of them and I'm failing another and struggling to keep my grades up in my other three classes.
it's gotten so hard for me and it's a constant battle when I wake up and have to go to class or to work or anywhere at all.
I'm severely depressed and worrisome constantly. I'm on session 3 and thinking positively, i know, is going to be the hardest one for me to follow. Anyone else struggling in school like this?

Pixie-I don't go to school but I have similiar feelings. I have a really hard time getting out of bed also. I tend to think before my feet hit the floor that the day is going to drag me down and I haven't even started it!. I do have two children to look after and a wonderful husband so I try to put on a good face and just get up and deal with it. Usually once I am up, the day goes pretty good. If the attitude is positive so will you be. Next time you are waking up,try not to think about too much. Just get up and think positive.

Hey pixie! I know what you are experiencing! I moved away from home to go to college in 2003. I still have about 6 quarters to go until I graduate because I kept dropping classes or failing classes because I just DIDN'T SHOW UP!!!!!! I had to have my record changed twice, and might be petitioning again! I got into a really good program here at school, and I DID IT AGAIN! Once you're in, you have to keep up with all the work, and show up to basically EVERY CLASS! I've been trying to figure out for the past 4 years what my freakin' problem is!!!! I've always gotten very high grades throughout school, AND I like school, and have big goals! It didn't make any sense to me! I've been diagnosed with things and have been on and off meds, but this summer I realized that it's just anxiety, and am SO GLAD I found this program!!!!!!

Session 3 is a very important one! I stopped the program for a few weeks because I couldn't initially get past that session. It's hard work. You have to write down your negative thoughts AS THEY COME. It's scary to see!!! Also, sometimes I would catch myself saying some negative things to myself (out loud at times), but saying them in a funny kind of way. Funny delivery or not, the words are still harmful to our psyche! Also, I tried to make everything perfect before I moved on to the next session - don't do that! You can always go back to a session...and that's part of the homework.

The program kinda gives me more anxiety, but it will be worth it. It made me anxious to even get on these forums, so I haven't done it for months until now! I'm on session 6, and am trying to (because we kinda have to) make the program part of my daily life/routine...including getting on here.

I know it's tempting to stay in bed instead of face the world, but if you can face yourself and fight those negative thoughts then you can face anything. You are what you think you are...so think of yourself as positively as you can. I always get behind in school and then play catch up during the last week of school...and it gives my teachers also a hard time. I always tell myself it's just one class, but one class turns into a whole quarter. It all falls back to your daily, hourly thinking. If I we are automatically negative one day before class or work, then why would we not be negative prior to class or work the next day?....UNLESS I FIGHT IT! When you miss one class, it makes it even HARDER the next day because I , at least, would feel guilty and scared because I missed more material! It's a terrible cycle that I plan on breaking when I go back next quarter!

I know the program recommends that you don't skip ahead, but I listened to the bonus CD at the very end. I found it to be very helpful in developing specific positive thoughts. It's called "Feel Better Fast". Definitely check it out immediately.

I know it's hard, but practice being positive, and when you move forward in your life you will be glad that you showed up for the thing that made you afraid.

Hi Pixie!

I'm like Freckles, I'm not in school, but I too deal with the dreaded mornings. If I could, I would either stay in bed all day, or lounge in my pjs all day (which is what I've been doing lately.) You're right when you say, "... it feels safe." For me, it's not a fear to go outside or be with others, its just a lack of motivation & being overwhelmed.

I have 5 children and an AMAZING husband, so staying in bed is not really an option for me. I have noticed that when I go to bed with a decision to get up early, get showered & ready for the day, then my day goes much better. My thinking seems to be more positive, and I accomplish more. If I do lounge around, that's when the dark feelings and thoughts come creeping in, and I by the end of the day, I feel like crap, and I feel extremely guilty for not accomplishing anything. Why do we do this to ourselves. I wish I understood it.

My thoughts are with you. You are further than me in the program, as I have just started on Saturday, and listening to Lesson 1 for the 2nd time this week. I look forward to the change that I know can come from this program, if we just put the time and effort into it. We got this program for a reason, right?

Stay motivated. You can do it! I'm cheering for you! Keep up the good work, and get those grades up! It will be so worth it in the end!

It's the same with me. It's hard to get going, but once you do, things go pretty well. I don't go to school, I actually teach. I wish I could actually feel good in the morning and be able to do things in a timely manner. Things wouldn't just go pretty well, maybe they'd go great. But we can't beat ourselves up and dig our hole deeper and I know that's easier said than done. Good luck to us all.

Pixie, I can definitely sympathize with you about wanting to stay in your nice, safe, warm bed, there are many many days when I feel that same way. And some days that is exactly what you need, but most of the time it makes things worse. I don't have much encouragement to share because right now I am fighting the same thing, but I do have a few simple tricks that you can try. Always set your alarm clock to get up at the same time everyday and place the clock away from your bed so that you have no choice but to get out of bed to turn it off. You can also try using a concierge service to call you every morning with a wake up call there are some that will call you each day with an inspirational quote to help you start your day of on a positive note. If you like dogs get one and make it a routine to take it out every morning for a walk (very good relaxation time too). I hope this helps some I know that having my dog wake me up every morning to go out helps me. And I also know that when I don't get up at the same time everyday, I start to sleep later and later each day and then I'm up later and later each night until my inner clock is completely flipped and then it just makes me want to stay in bed even more. Keep up your good efforts and I'll keep trying to keep up mine and together we'll both succeed.

Hey, I just commented on "feeling frustrated" about this same thing. I too am having trouble with motivation. Thanks for the tips and encouragement you shared with Pixie, it also helps me. Until ya'll put it into words I did not really have an understanding of what I have been doing. I am on lesson one so I am looking forward to healing and getting past this.

It is so hard to get motivated when you are having negative thaughts. It is so hard to get them to quite coming. Trying to get going to do something is very hard when you just want to not do anything or see anyone.

Mya, I truly do understand each word you have written and yes it's very, very hard to have the willpower to even get out of bed some days and I was very good at avoiding life for a very long time. I slept many days away for so long and now wish I had those wasted hours, days and months to live again.

life passes us by so quickly and once a day is gone we can't get it back. As hard as it is to get up off a couch or out of a warm and comfortable bed and look forward to doing something, anything at all it's much harder to look back and see how many precious moments you've missed.

We all have times we do need to just rest our minds and bodies and that's ok as long as it's not because we are dreading life. It just adds to the depression and isn't making you feel any better at all. if you can find the inner strength to even take a shower or nice hot bath, do your hair and put something nice on to wear it will pick you up. Then see if you feel more like doing some kind of activity..anything that is enjoyable for you. It just helps to break this cycle. I just feel you are in a really dark hole right now and it's such a horrible place to be.

Sending you lots of good wishes and some hugs.
Hope you feel better very soon. keep the faith..tomorrow's another day!

I understand how you feel. I wouldn't get out of bed if it wasn't for my daughter screaming for me every morning. I have a big problem with leaving the house. I can not get the energy to get myself ready to leave and if I get ready it is so late that I still end up staying at home. I spend all of my time at home in my pj's.

Sometimes I get so overwhelmed I can't function. I've spent lots of time in the recliner under a blanket. It was suggested to me to just do the next right thing. That can be difficult to identify. So I really work on keeping life VERY SIMPLE. There are times I have to wait for the inspiration to even realize what the next step is and sometimes it's as simple as putting milk on my cereal. That, to me, is a big deal at the time. In reality it's a baby step and baby steps add up to big steps. I'm right where I need to be and I'm grateful you all are here with me.

I am guessing everyone on here "has purchased" the program? But it seems like everyone is still struggling with their daily issues. Does it ever go completely away or do you feel it is still there everyday and just deal with it like you have before because there is not a whole lot you can do? Sorry...just trying to understand if you all feel the program "really" works?