My behavior's realated to anxiety and depression have caused my boyfriend of 3 years to leave. I've been trying to explain my issues with him for a long time and he still doesn't get it. He feels as thought he's paying for what my ex has done to me and in some ways he may be. I have two thoughts that run through my mind - one, if he truly cared about me he would deal with it. I'm really not that bad of a person; two, it's not fair for me to expect anyone to put up with my mood swings. Any suggestions or advice?

Well, I think we are in this battle alone. Each and every one of us. No matter what support loved ones can be, ultimately it is us who have to heal, and do the work to heal. I would rather be alone to do work on myself than be with someone who does not give a hoot, and some people just do not GET IT! I've been through that and now expect nothing and the good thing is I GET WHAT I EXPECT. So no feelings of anger etc towards anyone. Understanding these types of disorders is beyond the realm of some people and maybe this has happened for a reason. Maybe you will be stronger now that you have to get better just for yourself. What do you think??

You're right - - ultimatley we do have to deal with it on our own. We can't expect anyone to GET IT or deal with it. I don't feel anger towards him (at the moment.) I'm just feeling down. Of course my mind is racing with all the bad thoughts - - I've just lost a good guy, I'm not going to find anyone else, my kids are going to be hurt, I cant stand to see him with someone else, etc. I think it bothers me the most that he can just walk away so easily and not feel what I'm feeling. It's like no big deal to him. He has the "It is what it is" attitude.

I know and understand. Life throws us curve balls forsure and for us who are supersensitive we cannot imagine leaving someone in the vacumn we feel we are in at times. But, think of it this way, if he left, and he did, left you when you were feeling poorly and was desperately trying to explain to him what your feelings were--then let him go. It is difficult now but I do believe we become strong and more self-reliant when something like this loss happens. Women need to stand tall, strong, and state their presence, come what may. They also have to work at things ten times harder to be as tough as a man, but (smile) luckily we can do that quite well and easily.
Len him go, you will be fine. Grieve if you must for say, 10 hours or so, then shake loose and really LET HIM GO!!
It will work out, you'll see!!