For years I felt quilty looking at another man or talking with men because I allowed other wifes to make me feel quilty talk with there husband, they would come accross as jealous and I would feel that. In the beginning of my marriage I thought just because they are the oppoisite sex doesn't mean I can't talk to them... But, alot of men and women think if you talk or joke around with a man or women you are after them for an afair. Now I know that I allow this to happen to myself with my insecurities of making these women not feel this way. So, I would turn my head the other way and shy away from my brother in law. Now I know that this is there problem why make it mine. Yes, I am the type of person to keep peace but when my sister in law causes trouble for me because of her own guilt and it is not my fault then I should recongnize this and address it right away so people don't get the wrong idea. Realizing this problem and other problems has helped me with writing my feelings down on paper.