Hello everyone,
Yesterday I went to the doctor with a friend of mine. We have been friends for over 20 years. He is deaf but can read lips. He found out about a year ago that he has colon cancer and spots on his liver and lungs. He has been going to the hospital for chemo treatments. Then they gave him a break. The chemo did shrink the spots but they are trying to grow again. His Mom couldn't go with him so I did to translate between him and the doctor. My friend ask me to ask the doctor how long he could go for. I asked and I was having some anxiety...who wouldn't? The doctor said a person with this type of cancer typically has a life span of 2 1/2 to 3 years. Before when they didn't have chemo, they would live for 90 days. The doctor told my friend that he needed to know this and be aware of this. The doctor does not want him to focus too much on the future. He wants him to focus on now. Now try to translate that (anxiety). But I did. I also told him that the doctor really doesn't know how long, he's talking typically. I told him to take each day as it comes, deal with just that day. I really couldn't find the words. I hope what I did say helped. He seemed in good spirits when he left. I'm on Session 9 Get Off the Guilt and Worry Treadmill. Talk about learning a life lesson.

All best to everyone on here,
Inside Man

Just goes to prove no matter how bad we think we have it there is someone out there a lot worse off and we should be thankful for each and every day we are blessed with.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend. I hope he lives each day happily and to the fullest and I pray you can remain strong for his sake as well as your own.

Hang in there Inside Man, you did what you had to do. Remember to look after yourself as well as your friend. My thoughts are with you and I wish you strength to see this through. I hope you find some comfort in others who care.

Hang in there Inside Man. You did what you had to. Remember to look after yourself as well as your friend. I hope this program and the people on it will help you get through this. My thoughts are with you. Please continue to post your worries. I'm sure there's alot of people out there that can help you feel not alone with this. Take Care

Sorry for the double post. My computer is running slow this evening and I thought the first one didn't go through!

Hello Wireman,
Thanks for your prayers and words. I appreciate it. It's hard for him to hear from the doctor I'm sure. It was hard for me to translate it to him. But I guess if you are a true friend, you're there during the good times and the bad.

All my best,
Inside Man

Hello Freckles,
I'm ok. It was just an uncomfortable thing to deal with for me. He's known my family for years, all of us, my mom, wife, daughter, brother, and sisters. He's a friend of the family, you know, like a family member.

All my best,
Inside Man

Hello Inside Man,
Sounds like you are a very good friend and I'm sure that your words and support were both appreciated and comforting at this difficult time.It seems to me that the more we care about others the less time we have to worry and fret --thats a good thing!!TAKE CARE

Choose To Be Free








If you think of yourself as a victim, stop that thought right now. Nothing positive will come of it. No matter what has brought you to where you are, it is up to you to move yourself forward. Have forces beyond your control injured you or held you back? Of course they have.

Do you really want to depend on those same forces to move you forward?

Though others may be to blame for your situation, you are nonetheless responsible for it. Though you may have many excellent reasons to feel sorry for yourself, such pity will not add anything of value to your life...

If see yourself as a victim, it is because you have chosen to do so. Does that sound harsh and uncaring? Then keep this in mind. There are many who have suffered even more than you, who have chosen not to be a victim, who have chosen instead to live life on their own terms...

You can choose to be responsible and by so doing you can choose to be free...


-- Ralph Marston
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Hello Annette,
I understand. I'm responsible for myself, my reactions, and my responses to things. I handled the situation and I'm glad I could be there for him because that's what a friend is for. I appreciate you posting and I do understand what you're saying here. Thank you.

All my best,
Inside Man

P.S. I've also read a lot of Ralph Marston on the daily motivator.

You are very welcome, and I am first to say that you are the full meaning of a friend. You are also the example of the meaning of a "man". You are taking a very difficult walk and doing it well. Your friend is an exampe to us all. I know that the Lord has blessed you and I pray he be with your friend also. Boy like Lucinda was saying "Life just is not always fair". Have a blessed day. Hugs to you and your friend.

I get the things I send from a friend of mine, and I really enjoy them.

Annette.

Hi: this morning I looked at all of the sessions and felt overwhelmed. I am on session 3. Then, I've since thought: Replace the negative with a positive thought: So, now I self talked and said to myself: There is nothing to be overwhelmed about;. Just take it a step at a time. It's going to take patience and practice and I feel so grateful that I saw the commercial on TV TO Send away for Lucinda's stress and anxiety package. I believe it is going to really help me. It already has. My friends say, they have noticed a change in me. So with God's help, I will overcome and learn the skills to manage my disorder. Thanks, loux

Hello loux,
Good for you for changing that negative to a positive. Just like you said, take it a step at a time. It's going to take patience and practice. You can do it. This program has helped me a lot.

All my best,
Inside Man

Thanks inside man for your positive input. What session are you on? Lesson 3 has much in it and it is very important, so I'll probably do it again, for 2 weeks instead of l week. Today, I kept trying to give myself affirmations from the flash cards. All the positive statements. I'm going to do it cause I'm sick of living this way.
thanks, loux

Hello loux,
I'm on Session 10. Staying on Session 3 for two weeks is ok. I stayed on Session 8 for three weeks because you want to understand it and really learn, you know? Just running through it won't benefit you. Use the flash cards, that's what they're there for. Take them with you. I have lots of times. You want to build up the positive in yourself. You can do it. I totally understand about being sick of living this way. I'm 44 and I've had these problems all my life. Now I'm not telling you this to discourage you but to lift you up, give you strength, and determination to continue on. Becasue now I'm doing good. People around me see a change and if I can do it YOU CAN DO IT TOO!

All my best,
Inside Man