Hello partners,
I am in week one with great anticipation for success. Depression has been the problem over the years, and with this latest bout, my husband is the closest he has ever been to leaving because it wears him down and he is tired. We began couple therapy 3 weeks ago. I am wondering if the proram saved any marriages.

Hi Noola, I can't answer your question and for that I'm terribly sorry I wish I could share a great couples success story but I am single and have been for a while. I just wanted to put out a word of encouragement that I am really proud that you are seeking help from both therapy and this program, its hard work but I believe in you. Stick with it and know that we (all of us here online) are here o give you support and understanding. I will pray for you that it all works out in the way God intended and that you may see the beauty in each new day.

Hi Noola,

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm going through some very heavy depression this week and feel sorry for my husband having to come home to me in this state but he has had bouts of depression himself so he does understand how it feels and he also has seen me without this depression and knows I have been working hard to change how I react to certain situations. have you asked your husband to sit and listen to some of the cd's or dv's with you. Hearing about others having gone through this may help him be more understanding of your issues and know that down the road you too will be able to control how you let things bother you. just a suggestion...my husband went through the first 4 sessions with me and some of sesion 7 as well.

Sending best wishes and prayers to you both.

Thank you Allison & Monty's Mom for the encouragement. Your prayers are greatly appreciated. I asked my husband to listen and he agreed to. When I mentioned last nite that we would listen to the second one, he said he did not realize I wanted him to listen to all of them with me; that he wasn't that interested. Ouch! I think he is going thru his own stuff right now, also. Mid-life doubts.
I do think I had found out about this program sooner, BUT, I also know this is God's time for me to be involved in it, and I'll know why later....His timing is always perfect! Noola

Hello Noola. I am so sorry to hear all that you are going through right now. I am glad you have the program. It will definitely help you if you put the time and energy into it. I understand and sympathize with you that you are feeling hurt because your husband does not want to listen to the program with you. This is something you need to do on your own. You have the strength and the courage already within you to overcome this condition. The program will teach you the skills to manage.

I wish you much success in your recovery. Take care and God Bless.

I have had a similar experience in my life at a juncture where I knew that I had to have change or die. My companion had refused to experience this with me and I was devastated but therein lay the secret to what I had to discover. I had to learn to overcome the fear of being alone in my discoveries and the fear of loss. Someone wise once said that as we progress those around us will either progress with us or they will fall off our lives as a consequence of our progressing into a new reality in life. You can call out,"Come in the waters warm!" but you cannot push them into the pool nor would you want to. Be patient and conquer the fear of being alone and you will find a new world of hope and peace and happiness awaits you on the otherside of lonliness. Enduring lonliness, well, is holy and wholeness is born of it.

Noola, has your husband watched the "I'll be there for you". My husband did and he has been very supportive. He checks everyday to see if I have "worked the program" and asks how many times I have listened to the relaxtion cd.