Ok world, here is a new one that I haven't heard yet. When my mind is wandering off doing it's own thing I tend to think about everyone else, not myself and what will happen or what if thinking. I am always thinking about what I can do to help someone else and thinking about what they should do to fix their problem and then I go off into "Well if they would only do this or that and so I get all upset and stomach in knots and hot flashes and all my muscles tensing up. I hate it. Why do I do this? They can take care of themselves, they have to take care of themselves I can't do it. But yet I still think about it and can't get to sleep.
I started the program because of physical issues. Being so tired, and waking up achy all over and the constant hot flashes (and I am done with menopause) I can tell that the heat is from being anxious. My Doctor did find a vitamin D deficiency which at least got me off the couch all day! But pushing through each and every day tired and achy was too much. I pray and believe that this program will, is, going to help. Thanks for listening.

Hi jkranz,
I struggle with "what if" thinking a lot. I too am a fixer. I think if only they would do this or that, etc. I know rationally that I cannot control someone else's actions but I do find it hard. I think for me its a control thing.

I also struggle with anxiety when I hear anything bad that has happened to someone else. If I hear someone describing something bad I get all the feelings as though it happened to me. I spend a lot of time telling myself that "I am okay, nothing bad is happening to me". Im hoping as I go along in this program I will get better and better at not overreacting to outside stimulus. Im only just beginning session 3.

Hi! I also have a problem with trying to help other people that have problem"s that take's the place of me not dealing with my own problem"s.I always worry about everybody els not enough about my self,thats the way I have always lived my life so that"s why I"m doing this program I think that I need to love myself more and then maybe I can help people understand more about what they can do to deal with there own problem"s.sorry about the spelling HA"HA".Good luck and GOD BLESS YOU.

ME TOO YOU GUYS!!! I feel like it is in the "addictive negative thinking "or session 3. I also believe it is where the healing needs to happen or there will not be any improvement, for me.
Mine has a different twist on it and I found session 3 sooooo comforting when Lucinda briefly mentioned "her DISSAPPIONTMENT in the world".That is where my mind goes. More specificly with animals(abuse or neglect), AlWAYS ANIMALS, poverty,war. Real issues that my obsession with actually hurts to think about. This constant pain has made me not want to live. Life feels painful.
Thinking of these thinking patterns as 'addictive" is really really helpful to me.

jkranz, Thank you posting your thinking pattern. It is so familiar to me. I added my experience below. My personal e-mail is susiewrenn@yahoo.com I would love to bring support to you and in turn recieve some hope /comfort for myself. The sucjects I am drawn to are so upsetting that I feel so sad with them. This is a big big issue with me. Susie