Ok. So yesterday was a bad day for me. I spent most of the day feeling very spacey and weak and at closing time I went straight into a level 9 panic attack. I have been having them more lately. My fiance has been trying so hard to understand what I'm going through and he really has been very supportive but last night when I got home he looked really upset and said that he's wondering if he has been the cause of my anxiety. So let me tell you a little bit about us so you kind of understand. We have been together for almost 2 years, in fact we are getting married on our 2 year anniversary in Feb. I just started having anxiety a couple of months ago. My life has changed considerably since we have been together but they are all great changes. I don't have any children of my own and he has 5. Yea I know that seems like a lot but he is 15 years older than me so 2 of his daughters are married and have children of their own. He also has a 17 year old son who is such a great kid and then the 2 youngest girls are 14 and 8. I get along with all of them really well especially to 2 youngest because they spend almost every weekend with us. I don't mind...I love having them and he and I do get plenty of alone time otherwise. I just sold my house in Missouri and have moved just across the river into Illinois with him. So, like I said, there have been a lot changes in the past few months not to mention that I have a very stressful job. So, I do believe that it is my stress level that has finally decided to erupt that has caused my anxiety but it's not his fault. But because of his kids and moving into another state to be with him he's starting to think that its his fault. He is truely the very best thing that has ever happened to me. Until my anxiety started, I can honestly say that I have never been happier in all my life. And I told him all of this last night. He's hurting too because he can't stand to see me this way and he wants so badly just to fix it and he knows he can't. I guess I just needed to talk about this so thanks for letting me and if anyone has any advice, feel free to respond.

Hi Amy, this is Jasmine. First of all, you are very lucky that you have someone who understands what you are going through instead of just totally neglecting your feelings. And yes, the heightened anxiety might be due to the increased stress lately that you are having. What I do when I am stressed is that I write out all my worries in a journal and really get in touch with myself. That helps me kind of get back to being grounded and not spacey all the time. It might help you to try it. I do not know if you already write in a journal, but it is a good thing if you do. Let me know if this helps.

Hi Amy
first off take a nice big deep breath...what your feeling is the stress inyour life. Even the good things in life can be stressfull stress doesnt have to be from a negative event. Planning a wedding is exciting but stressfull, moving into a home with your partner is wonderful but still stressfull.....

What your feeling is natural. Its perfectly natural to feel overwhelmed and that then will lead to anxiety if you dont have the skills and tools to work through it. The best thing about anxeity and panic is its beatable. You can get through this and you will.....

Do you have the program? This program is a wonderfull tool to learning how to cope with life and the stresses that it throws at us. Its not to say that there wont be a time that you get a panic attack just because you completed this program but it certainly wont scare you so much because youll know what to do to get through that time. The positive attitude, the diet, the lowered expectations, the release of guilt and so much more in this program will show you how to let the small stuff slip by and its all small stuff.

I think youve got the basis for a great gratefull list going on in your life. You have a wonderfull man that adores you and your getting married. FANTASTIC. You have family all around you with all the children this man brings to the relationship. You have this chat site to learn from. So continue to add to your list of whats good in life.

Dont dwell on the panic it will all go away when you learn to adjust your reactions to life. This program is gonna help you so much.
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